October 24, 2013
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It's Not What You Say But How You Say It
Certainly everyone has the right to free speech and to say whatever is on their mind, but that doesn't mean that everyone should literally speak what is on their mind. There has to be a balance between what you can say and what you should say. Some people tend to lack the rationality to differentiate between the two whether they are oblivious of the matter or they just don't give a flying nuck about it. The reason why people should be more away of what they say because words can cut sharp as knives, but more importantly how you say your remark because of the portrayal of the feeling you're exerting from the words that are being spoke of like what they say, actions are louder than words.
For instance, saying the sentence "I like Dave better" to someone can have multiple impact.
Calm manner: "I like Dave better," can give a neutral response at their desire for the companionship of Dave, thus resulting in feelings being a little hurt but you'll survive and depart on a positive note.
Enthusiastic manner: "I like Dave better!" can give either a disappointed or positively supportive response, thus resulting in momentarily heartbroken or exciting feelings.
Melancholy manner: "I like Dave better..." can give disappointed or heartbroken response, thus resulting in a dark and cloudy atmosphere.
Sharp manner: "I LIKE DAVE BETTER!" can give a antagonistic or jilted response, thus resulting in hurt feelings and utter anger as you turn away and respond with eff you too.
I would like to give people the benefit of the doubt that they did not mean to say things how they did, but that's how you portrayed yourself to the audience and yes, you're a douchebag. I have no issues with people speaking their mind, but do mind the manner in which you say things because you can hurt or anger your audience when you did not mean to. A simple misunderstanding can be a the deciding factor between a connection between two people. Some people literally take what someone said for how they said it and have resented that person for decades when all along that person did not mean to say what was said in that particular manner. If you truly value your friends and family then you should mind how you say things because when some things are lost, they are forever lost.
